Reality May Bite.... But the truth hurts more !

All my life I have heard that the truth will set you free! Positive thinking will pave the way for good this to happen!
Woman:
Well the truth is yes the truth will set you free but at what cost and who will you hurt? I think that woman think about this much more than me for sure, Woman have no problems asking for help or crying for no reason... or biting your tongue for the sake of hurting someone else even if it makes you look like hummm let me see what I have been called ..... Bitch, slut, whore, home wrecker, the worst person ever born, lire well on that note: I think you get it!
Men:
Who cares what will happen? let it come out I’m not saying anything or maybe they do but in a different way example: You see your buddies wife out with another man: way they come out with it - he buddy I was a XYZ the other night and I saw you wife and it was a mad house O looked for you and could not find you man (this leaves the window open for the question to come to him that way he is free)
They then get called a Buddy, Friend and a good guy!
This is also the case when it comes to Sex!
As all of you know woman are Slut's and men are Stud’s!
Ok yes this will lead to what this is about...........
I had to do one of the hardest this ever and I'm not that good at it ... Look I’m out spoken as they come hey look at this blog lol..... I had to tell someone the truth about the person they were becoming over this stupid world of Poker......
I knew there was more to the problem than just the cards that were being dealt at the table ...... it was about the cards they were dealt with in life...... I could hear the change and watched the change but how do you bring it up and get to the root of why this was happening? As a woman you are made with the DR Phil Jean: "I deserve the truth and I will not take any lies and do not try to Bullshit me because I will call you out on your crap"
Truth I'm not Dr Phil!
The problem is I'm not the only one I have heard of this before I think it should have a name let’s call it a face book intervention!

This happens allot more than people realize see what do you do when you have a friend the hides and run from the truth? Me I try to tell it like it even though it hurts.... How do you know you have a friend that lives in this world well here are the clues?
1. Everything they say is about face book or people that they have never met.
2. They talk about poker like it is real money (if it was I'm cashing out)
3. They never talk about the real word.
4. They call and don't talk because they are talking to you on the chat box at the poker table.
5. You tell them stories about other people on fackbook and they throw stones at them.


They need help and love... Because they need to know that this is a problem and you are there not across the table but just a phone call away.... this has happen to me like I said ... this one time a friend was so in to a guy that fed her all these stories about how bad his life is and how unhappy he was that she started to live in his world.... and had no idea what was happening in her own life ,,,, This is one of the biggest problems for men and woman because they need to feel that connect with another person and fell that this is what it should feel like as I have said time and time again ...... WAKE UP THIS IS NOT REAL LIFE......

And what happens when it becomes your all? You start to give up on the life you have been leading for what 30+ years because someone tells you how unhappy you are and how you need so much more and they are looking out for you...... As he is telling you his kids are in the car waiting to go to school......

If the shoes was on the other foot and you had no idea that your other half was on Face book talking to another woman and telling her everything you longed to hear, how would you feel?

The truth is the truth SUCKS right but it does not have to ...... you have someone in the world that cares that much to stand losing everything just for you because they care..... Yes your mad and don't see the problem.... That is why they call it a problem RIGHT?

Final / Thought......
IF HE HAS KIDS AND A WIFE AND THEY HAVE BEEN HAVING PROBLEMS AND THERE IS NO LOVE IT IS UP TO YOU TO ASK????? WELL WHY THIS PERSON NOT LEFT AND WHAT HAS MAKES ME SOOOO WONDERFUL THAT I CAN CHANGE HIM AND MAKE HIM LEAVE?

ANSWER: YOUR NOT AND CHANCES ARE THEY ARE FULL OF SHIT ....AND ANYONE WHO USES THERE KIDS AS AN ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION.... SHOULD NOT HAVE KIDS BECAUSE THEY WILL GROW UP AND KNOW THE TRUTH AND YOU NEVER WANT THAT TRUTH TO BE YOU......... XO

IS THE GRASS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE?

What Happens when life SUCK'S and you have no where to go and when you have no one to turn too?

Question: what would you give up for the chance at true love and happiness?

My answer: EVERYTHING

Question: What do you do when it all goes wrong?

My Answer: I don’t have one (Imagine That)

Well I have to give credit to all the men and woman who have picked there selves up and dusted them selves off and started over AGAIN!!!!!

This is a true hart felt story that I truly understand and have heard over and over again......... BUT WHY?

What happen to the old story of > boy meets girl and a girl meets boy....

Oh yah the internet and most of all a green felt table and a profile pitcher that makes you melt.... And the fact that you are single and looking for a new start, as I said it starts with one word HELLO ... and you want to type look guy I’m and fucken mess and I've been on an anti-depressant, and my real life is falling apart ......And I have a ex husband who makes me sick and I feel like I’m pushing my kids away and they hate me! But after all of this if you still want to say hello then so be it... But heaven for bid if you should like a real person Right? Instead you type >Hello MR Big and before you can hit send he has asked how are you? And that is when for the first time in a long time someone asked and really meant it! Then you keep playing and then he keeps it going.

> Big> Where are you from?
>Carrie> Hell (come on you know that is what you want to say but you type ... New York!
>Big> WOW I’m Australia!!
> Carrie > wow that is wonderful

.....BUDDY REQUEST IS SENT AND YOU ACCEPT ......SO IT BEGINS........

As Carrie looks at his profile picture she thinks wow he is not bad :)
The ends and she goes to bed after all the chat and she thins to herself ... wow that was fun! And you never give it a second thought....

(Right)

WRONG (lol) YUP THAT IS RIGHT THIS BOY GOT TO YOU!!!!

After playing for a couple of months every time you long on you get the POP up MR Big sent to an invite to join his table....... Then the Question ... Carrie add me to face Book.... Her things??? Then what the hell he is a good guy and I'm single why not ... (Oh boy look Out)
This is when it starts to build... And then she gets a little like go out Meg Ryan (YOU GO MAIL)
The messages start and things get way pass Hello:

He starts to open up to her.... and then it is her turn....

The truth... And as she types it start's to feel real and as she sees her words on the page it hits her (omg this is my life)

BUT MR BIG DOES NOT CARE AND HE MAKE HER BELIVE THAT EVERYTHING WILL BE OK... IM HEAR ... the words she has not heard in so long and it feels good then the poker world stops and We eventually exchange msn addresses, then get into skype together. Before I know it, we're spending about 6 hours a day online together, talking on skype the whole time.

>Omg this is so real this and it feels so right and what we have online seems almost magical. He's my best friend, and I'm his. We understand each other like nobody else does. We 'fall in love.'
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ME:
There is nothing wrong with this feeling as long as you understand that UN like face book you can’t delete them and you can't block him..... When your hart is open it feels so right......
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SO Carrie jumped with both feet so much so because her finances were going down the drain, and she was about to lose her house.... then her life changed (Take a breath)

THE JUMP....
Her ex-husband buys her house and possessions from me. MR Big and I make plans to move to Florida together, leaving her kids with their dad. In my mind, this is the best thing for everybody.

I can't wait to meet MR BIG in person. After all, we're both head over heels in love with each other. (Right)

Well she picks him up at the airport, and there weren't exactly sparks.
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Time OUT:

You should always trust your gut... there is nothing better then a Womans intuission........

THE BUBBLE BURST...
We continue with our plans, neither one of us saying a word about the lack of chemistry.

After spending nearly 4 months together, we ended up not getting married (which we had planned on doing so he could stay). We have some good times, lots of boring times and a few not so good times. He ends up going back to Australia. I ended up moving back home, except now she does not have a home so she ends up staying with her parents.


The End Right..... WRONG you have to understand that she has so many things to keep her going.... She never forgot who she is and how much it takes to do what she did.... The truth is at least she gave it a shot and that take so much......

So I was thinking about how to end her story but the truth is I see it as a new start.... hears is why.....

The man she thought she was in love with she can now see is a total tool (watching his fb page).

A big part of me is now empty. Did I ever actually love him? Or was I in love with the fantasy? Either way, my life is no longer the same, or she feel’s left alone to pick up the pieces and move forward on her own.

One good thing did come of the move though - she got off the anti-depressant and started feeling again instead of living numb. Knowing what I do now, I'd do things so different and still have everything I had before.

Her End.......

So hear is the point

1. A woman will only live in a dream for so long.
2. A woman will always believe in love.....
3. A woman knows what she has to do to SURVIVE........

I FEEL THAT THIS IS WHERE YOU START TO LAY YOUR OWN GREENER GRASSING....

Again a man would do this a look at this as a fun time and never give it a second thought.....

As a woman we want to die and call it a day...... But remind yourself I know he is still out there, He just has not found me yet :)

The Fake Fairy Tale !!!!

Have you ever thought about the first time you fell in love??
Yes the romance the kissing the all night phone calls! Yup and of course the SEX!!! OMG that first time do you know how good that feels and then the honey moon BANG OVER! Yup the book came to it end and you realize that all the stuff you were told was FAKE!!!

Yes Fake but..... on face book it never has to end the fairy tale no matter how much you tell your friends that it is all crap they some how hold on to what they think might be well the CINDERELLA story ... and if you have never met well why no right ? Yup that is the whole reason behind the Face Book romance.....

So your not happy and have had a bad day and you home life is a mess and then after all that you get on the computer.... you have already book marked face book and double clicked to open the page and type your email and then your password and BANG .... You are home yup the world of make believe. You get all the free chips and then you hit PLAY POKER and then you look at the live list and you see him the MR Right you have always dreamed of..... Yup your hart stops and you look around at the real life you lead and smile because there he is.....
Your prince and then you see it "Hello Hun" ...."How was your day" WOW someone who cares you thinks to your self yup I love Him/Her....
True:
So I have a friend her whole life is such a mess she hates her life her husband and ever since Mr. X life has never been the same, because she feels this is the love she has been waiting for.... and over the next what 6 months you fall so in love with the idea of there being somone out in the world that gets you realy understand you and that makes you feel alive. Well this is a little trickier they are both married yup WOW what a secret both has kids and a real life..... then at some point the calls started (Oh boy) this is real now right then the story's I love you and life with out you well will never be the same then ... IM LEAVING MY WIFE ...OMG ....but funny thing she had no interest in leaving her husband! What would Cinderella think....? Snow white you there lol at this point I would say eat that Dam apple LOL.....

Question: Do you for one moment believe that Mr. X said anything?

Well jump a head now and guess what he is still with his wife and she with her husband and OH yes the fake account LOL yup he said the wife knows all and she is looking for this woman.... COME ON EAT THAT APPLE ALREADY!!!!

All I’m saying is the dream will always be a dream right?

But the truth is it will all be the same at the end, He will on the couch or the computer and you will never stop thinking who is he talking too? What have I done yup all you did was trade in an old dog for a new one and then dream ends and there you are looking for that missing piece again! That is why that dream is so much better on Face book he will never be there in real life but you will always have a MR X one click away 

The hours Spent on Face Book ?

Question: how long do you Spend on the computer? How long do you spend on face book?

I ask these question because they are very different, if you are on the computer looking up stuff that may peek your interest or your doing school work, finding out information to prove someone wrong this is what the world of computers are for!

The face book hours:
ok so you have all the fancy stuff updates to your cell; you can comment from you phone and live notifications that someone wrote on your wall or want s to be your friend and if it is your birthday well those things just go NUTS !!!!!!! Yes people love you?

but all that a side - you’re at home or work and you long on to take care of your Farm , Fish ,Island, Mafia wars, Cafe world ,Pet ville ,and POKER !
wow that is a full time job ... Funny story the first time i even heard of Farm ville was from Dr Phil who had a daughter on the show who wrote in about her mother who was always on the computer and did not cook, help her kids with homework or speak to her kids when she was on the Farm, now when Dr Phil asked what are you doing? She said she was taking care of her animals and her trees and helping out others.....

Funny thing was her family got none of that from her.... yes this is a problem!

When you hear stuff like this you pass judgment right away as you turn to look from your computer.... Funny right?

No it is not ... or how about the people who are posting stuff on face book and the other person in their life has no idea because they do not know how it works? Exp... Video diary's, Music videos, Harts messages, and one on one comments ... THIS TAKES TIME!!!! And the poker world well well....
you log in to get the free chips from buddy’s... you then have to press the play poker to see who might be on playing and what are they doing and I have to say hello .... Ok one quick hand then another... Then another ... you get where is going right? well the one thing is this is not 6pm at night NO this is 5:00 am and the next time you check the clock ... 7am and you already have said hello to the man that follows you everywhere and the friends from other parts of the world (time change) yup that is right 2 hours in front of a box that takes all the world’s problems a way.... Oh I forgot what if the world poker commission logs on to recruit a new player and OMG you’re not on?

Look I get it and yes I’m guilty of it ! But I know when to stop and I know that there is no chip cash out so I can take my money and go home.... and I understand about not wanting to deal with things at home because it is just too hard. But if you ever took a walk outside and saw people walking around or take a look at your partners face after 4 hours of play and the only words you say is OMG I just won a million + chips and he looks at you like you are crazy loon ...... Guess what you need to log off and take a good look around.... Because chances are you have killed your own little farm at home or in poker terms.... YOU FOLDED A ROYAL FLUSH LOL

The Married ones

Ok so what do you get when you have married men and woman who are not happy at home and who feel like they are nothing all on one site and start to get the attention that they have longed for? you guessed it Facebook ! well let me tell you , so you put a pic up on line of lets say you about 5-10 years agao and you look hot ! But not 5-10 years later and BANG 10*20 extra added to your fram right ? true story so you can control the way people look at you and make them think that you are so hot and young full of life and when somone asks that million doller question ARE YOU MARRIED? you think well .......... then the person types ? enter as you watch the screen hopeing that know one you knows shows up you type the first lie NO enter, Well that is how this all starts ,,,, I tryed to show my friends an example I put a pitc of Kim Kardashin as my profile pic and went and sat at a table to play poker well with in 5 sec all these wonderful comment started to pop up Hello Tammy, How are you , you are so hot , where are you from, LMFAO ! all my friends werre at the table as well  ..... then the question came up what do you do for a living ? as i had my friends on a side chat I told them to watch this !!! I told these men that I a surgent and work long hours and was so tired ....... then i told them I was a nurse and that i lived in LA ........ See look OMG i said this is not real life !!!!! Point is I can be who I want say what I want and someone from the UK , Texas, or where ever they may be and dose not know the diffrence ......  and if i was un happy and down on myself we ll hey if a guy him on me I would be all over that RIGHT ?   And the men well they do the same thing let me tell you !
I had this guy tell me to follow him to a room and wow was I suprised there was no players at the table just us and was not looking for a Royal Flush ! OMG so was intresed on how this worked so i went along, i asked point blank ARE YOU MARRIED ? his answer NO (lol) then he went on
(Guy)- I think of you all the time.
(me)  so do i
Guy - ok so i know we are far but do you think that we will ever meet --- true Tammy plz i need to know you make me sooooo Happy
ME - Yah sure but slow down

....... AER YOU KIDDING ME .............

SO one day I was so intrested in this man that i went to look for him ( when you send chips you see the persons last name and are able to see there profile)  and guess what I found him alright !

* hi I Mr X and I'm married to the love of my life and and have 5 wonderful children and just had a brand new Baby boy this past 09 and im a worker and in the minds ? ( he told me he did tatoos )
etc - you get this right?

***** So not married... LIE
***** 6 Kids WHAT ?
***** Sole Matte ****

who does that are you that stupid that you think you cant be found - think again hello this is 2010 .... google is our best friend. you can find anything on it HELLO or should i say anyone!!!!
So my point is ..... you can be anyone you want , you can look the way you want .... but all in all can you still look at yourself once you log off ?

Hello World :

So this is my first blog and I have decided to do this because I have way to many real story's about the biggest web site of our time. Did you know that people meet people fall in love and have never met ? did you know that people have left there partners for a fairy tale? or how a bout people that are so addicted that they stay up for hours and do not even spend time with there family's. I thought it might be a good life learning tool for people who have someone that is always on the computer ! And you can't forget all the games on face book that bring people from all over the world to the same table yes Poker, Farmville, Mafia wars etc......

Yes you have no idea what goes on when you are waiting for good cards !

everything you will read are yes true story's ! I look forward to hearing what you have to say and I hope this many help you if you have someone in your life that well just can't shut the computer off @ anytime of the day .........